One of the humane Islamic behaviour which must be taken care of disregarding is a great sin is man's behaviour with the below-mentioned persons. They possess, besides the moral, their rights too:
1. Man's behaviour with his father and mother.
2. Attitude of father and mother towards their children.
3. Conduct with the community, kinsmen and relatives.
4. Dealings with family members.
5. Living with neighbours.
6. Governments behaviour with people and people's behaviour with the government.
7. Man's attitude toward all others.
After God worship, respect for Parents
Though the demands of humanity and truthfulness alone are enough for giving respect to father and mother, as Islam does not remain silent even in the matters which are in total agreement with heart and mind, rather it makes it emphatically incumbent to follow relevant rules in that respect. Islam has put so much emphasis on the rights of parents that such emphasis is seldom seen in any other matters. Mostly it is seen in Holy Quran that after ordering worship of none but only one god, the command to respect parents immediately follows.
Verses
1. And when We made a covenant with the children of Israel: You shall not serve any but Allah and you shall do good to your parents, and to the near of kin and to the orphans and the needy, and you shall speak to men good words.
2. And serve Allah and do not associate any thing with Him and be good to the parents and to the near of kin and the orphans and the needy and the neighbour of your kin and the alien neighbour, and the companion in a journey and the wayfarer and those whom your right hands possess; surely Allah does not love him who is proud, boastful.
3. And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve any but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them so much as Ugh nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! have compassion on them, as they brought me up when I was little.
Extremely extraordinary points about parents
A. After commanding: worship is exclusively for the Almighty Allah and hence none else should be worshipped immediately thereafter through the refers to parents and says: behave nicely with father and mother. This shows the importance of this issue.
B. The problem of their old age has been specifically mentioned, as it is possible that they may not be able even to move without the help of others and fulfil their needs themselves. In such event, definitely it is compulsory to give extra attention to them.
C. The divine commandment asserts that you have no right to say even ugh to your parents. It means you should never show disgust in their presence.
D. Thereafter the Holy Quran orders: talk respectfully with them.
E. God also orders to remain lowly and meek before them. That lowliness must express love and affection.
F. Finally Allah says: when you turn your face to Allah in worship or prayer or supplication do not forget your parents be they alive or dead and seek Allah's Mercy for them.
Thought provoking point
The fact that the mention of being thankful to parents has been made along with that to the Lord for His bounties shows how great and vast are the rights of parents.
Traditions
Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: One who looks angrily toward his parents makes God so angry that God does not accept his prayers.. and this is so even if the two parents might have done in justice to him
Imam Baqir (a.s.) has quoted the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) saying: Refrain from harassing parents because the fragrance of paradise which can be smelled from a distance of a thousand year journey does not reach a person who has displeased his parents, who has committed adultery in old age, and the one who drags his clothes on ground as a sign of ego as greatness belongs to only one God.
Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: Had there been anything lighter by uttering ugh to parents God might have prohibited even its utterance as we have explained it is the Safest way of expressing disgust and it is the least indication of disrespect and opposition the ones parents. One of the ugly things making man aaq displeased by parents is to look harshly or angrily toward them.
It is recorded from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) that he said: To look with love and affection at parents is an act of Ibaadat.
Question: Do the above mentioned verses and traditions also apply when what the parents what is against Shariat?
Answer: The reply is in the negative. First of all we should know that no order has any value against the command of God. Amirul Momineen (a.s.) has said: No order should be obeyed which makes one disobey God.
Secondly, verse No: 15 of Surah Luqman says: And if they contend with you that you should associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, do not obey them, and keep company with them in this world kindly.
Thirdly, the Holy Quran also commands: O you who believe! do not take your fathers and your brothers for guardians if they love unbelief more than belief; and whoever of you takes them for a guardian, these it is that are the unjust. Say: If your fathers and your sons and your brethren and your mates and your kinsfolk and property which you have acquired, and the slackness of trade which you fear and dwellings which you like, are dearer to you than Allah and His Apostle and striving in His way, then wait till Allah brings about His command: and Allah does not guide the transgressing people.
Similarly when there is a tussle between the pleasure of God and other things, everything should be sacrificed for God.
Question: Is the status of father higher or that of mother?
Answer: traditions show that the status of mother is higher. Mali bin Khanees says: Imam Sadiq (a.s.) has said: a man asked the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.). It is recorded from Imam Sadiq 9(a.s.)0 that a man approached the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) and said: Behaarul Anwaar. In these two traditions the command to do good to the mother has been given thrice and hence it is the proof that the respect for mother is higher.
Question: Is the respect demanded only during the life time of parents or it is desired even after their demise?
Answer: It includes the time after their death also. Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: What prevents you from behaving nicely to parents during their lifetime or after their death?
It is also recorded from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.): Verily a man keeps serving his parents continuously during their entire lifetime, then they die and he does not repay their debts and doesn't and pray for their forgiveness then in these circumstance he is noted as Aaq disliked by parents. And sometimes it also happens that the son does not do good to be parents during their life span but when they expire he pays up their debt and prays to God for their forgiveness, God considers him as a pious person .
Conclusively we must mention that we must know that behaving nicely or adversely with parents has a takweeni (universal effect) which applies to man during this worlds life. Imam Sadiq (a.s.) has said: Behave nicely with your parents so that your children may also be good to you.
Quranic verses and traditions explicitly to the truth of our stand. Some of them have also been mentioned in our another book Maad.