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CHAPTER
2
Politeness and forgiveness
Cultivate forgiveness and
politeness. Those with qualities of politeness and forgiveness will go to
paradise without accounting for their deeds. These qualities are amongst the
attributes of Allah. There are several incidents about the politeness of
prophets and awliyas'. Some of the traditions state that a man cannot
became pious till he is polite.(Mustadrak-2,
p 304)Allah loves a believer who is
polite. It is one of the qualities of a momin.(Mustatul
Anwar, p. 195)A man who has power to retaliate,
yet he acts with politeness and restrain, Allah will fill his heart with
pleasure and Imaan on the day of the judgement, and He will give him the right
to select any hoor' he pleases. He will be given the reward of a martyr.(Mustadrak-2,
p. 88)To control your anger is
praiseworthy in the eye's of Allah whether you control your anger by patience
or by politeness. The more you control your anger, the more Allah will bestow
you with honour. When everyone will gather on the day of the judgement, a caller
will announce Where are those with good qualities?' Then, one group will
come forward. Angels will ask What are your good qualities?' They will
reply that "We were kind to those who had cut off relations with us. We were
giving to those who had denied us,
forgiving those who had opposed us," Then will hear one voice: Whatever you
have said is true. Enter without accounting for you deeds.(Mustadrak-2,
p 87)Forgiveness is "Zakat' of
success.(Nahjul
Balaga)One who is powerful enough to
punish, has the maximum right to forgive.(Wasaelush Shia-2, p 223)Son! Forgive those who have done
wrong to you so that Allah may forgive your wrong-doings and elevate your
status.Beware, never get angry or
excited. It is a sign of weakness of faith (Aqida). Anger destroys faith as
vinegar spoils honey.(Usul-e-kafi-2,
p. 302)There are four pillars of Kufr':
Desires,
fear
anger and
gazab' and gazab is
the key of all wickedness.(Usuel-e-Kafi
2, p. 303)By anger many intelligent man's
heart (mind) are ruined.(Usul-e-Kafi-2,
p. 305)Shaitan has promised that anger is
his net (gallow). With this I lead the best of men astray.(Mustadrak-2, 326)Religious scholars have suggested
a few ways to control anger:(1)
Say Aozo Billah-e-Menash Shaitanir Rajim.(2)
Remember Allah. It is stated in tauret' : Oh son of Adam ! Remember
me, when you are angry so that I may remember you at the time of my Gazab'
and save you from ruin. When someone oppresses you, remember my retribution. I
will punish him more than you can.(Wasaelus-Shia
2, p 470)(3)
If you are standing when you get angry, then sit down. If you sitting,
then lie down or get up.(Wasaelush-Shia)(4)
Change your place. While talking with Hazrat Moosa (a.s.), Shaitan said
whenever you are angry, change your place, otherwise I will put you in
trouble'.(5)
Do Wazu' and wash your hands and face with cold water.(Jam-us-saadat,
p. 296)(6)
If you are angry with any relative, touch your body with his body. This
will pacify your anger.(7)
Drink water.(Mahasin
Barki, p. 572)(8)
Eat kismiss (grapes). This will suppress your anger.(Mustadrak
p 115)(9)
Recite this Dua! Allahumma-Azhib Anni Gaiza kalli wa Ajrim min muzillate
fetan as-aloka gunnataka wa Auzo beka menas-shirk; Allahumma Sabitni alal huda
wassawab wajalni rezeyan marziyya gyro zalin wala mozillan.It is stated in the traditions that
whosoever suppresses his anger, Allah will forgive him on the day of the
judgement. He will cover his sins and give him paradise.(Wasaelush-Shia-2,
p. 470)
